Sir Arthur Conan Doyle was a bit of a prankster and it is said (although some say this is an urban legend) that he once sent a telegram to 12 of his friends saying “”All is discovered. Flee at once.” and all 12 fled the country.
Whether it’s true or not, it’s a nice story.
What makes it resonate with us though is the feeling of guilt and with guilt is often a lot of regret.
Feeling ‘if only’ doesn’t help. It doesn’t change the past, ruins the present and poisons the future.
Guilt and regret weigh you down and kill any joy you may have. They also feed our fears.
I have a friend who once told me: ‘if you find yourself worrying ask, can I do anything about it? If you can, do whatever you can and stop worrying. If you can’t, then you can’t change anything by worrying, so stop worrying.’
Don’t let negative emotions like guilt, regret, fear or worry sap your joy and make your life bleak and grey.
Like love, joy is a decision, not an emotion. Every time you find yourself slipping back into negativity, pinch yourself and decide to be peaceful and joyful, then go looking for it in your life.